1 00:00:01,503 --> 00:00:05,010 Rachel, in the wake of the Weinstein scandal and the #me too campaign, 2 00:00:05,010 --> 00:00:06,700 I believe you wanted to pick up on the confusion surrounding what actually constitutes sexual harrassment. 3 00:00:06,700 --> 00:00:08,315 I believe you wanted to pick up on the confusion surrounding what actually constitutes sexual harrassment. 4 00:00:08,315 --> 00:00:10,865 I believe you wanted to pick up on the confusion surrounding what actually constitutes sexual harrassment. 5 00:00:10,865 --> 00:00:14,235 Yes, that's right Nish. Or should I say: stop sexually harrassing me, Nish! 6 00:00:14,235 --> 00:00:20,278 Yes, that's right Nish. Or should I say: stop sexually harrassing me, Nish! 7 00:00:20,335 --> 00:00:23,375 Because even talking to a woman is now completely off limits. Isn't that right Nish? 8 00:00:23,380 --> 00:00:25,380 Because even talking to a woman is now completely off limits. Isn't that right Nish? 9 00:00:25,500 --> 00:00:30,666 No! No, it's not Nish, but it's fun to pretend to be confused about that, isn't it? 10 00:00:35,220 --> 00:00:37,760 In the light of recent revelations many men are feeling very worried about their own behaviour 11 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:40,715 In the light of recent revelations many men are feeling very worried about their own behaviour 12 00:00:40,715 --> 00:00:43,495 and feeling a little bit threatened as well which makes me so sad. 13 00:00:43,795 --> 00:00:46,815 'Well done, feminism.' says Martin in The Telegraph. 'Now men are afraid to help women at work' 14 00:00:46,815 --> 00:00:49,135 'Well done, feminism.' says Martin in The Telefgraph. 'Now men are afraid to help women at work' 15 00:00:50,340 --> 00:00:54,640 Well Nish, as ever The Daily Mail provides a very good barometer of the British public, 16 00:00:54,740 --> 00:00:56,695 with this headline which actually happened: 17 00:00:56,695 --> 00:00:59,305 'Is hugging still okay?' In the wake of the Weinstein sexual assault accusations, men ask: 18 00:00:59,305 --> 00:01:02,305 'Is hugging still okay?' In the wake of the Weinstein sexual assault accusations, men ask: 19 00:01:02,305 --> 00:01:06,200 'What is acceptable to women and society now?' 20 00:01:06,340 --> 00:01:11,740 Sociologist Carol-Ann Peterson says in the article: 'Men do need to recognize that a sudden arm round the shoulder 21 00:01:11,740 --> 00:01:13,680 or a pat on the butt isn't the innocuous gesture some might have thought.' 22 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:15,295 or a pat on the butt isn't the innocuous gesture some might have thought.' 23 00:01:15,295 --> 00:01:16,785 or a pat on the butt isn't the innocuous gesture some might have thought.' 24 00:01:18,140 --> 00:01:22,640 Oh Nish, it's an absolute minefield! What could possibly be wrong with spanking a colleague? 25 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:24,440 Or the prospect of a sudden arm grabbing you from the shadows? 26 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:27,380 Or the prospect of a sudden arm grabbing you from the shadows? 27 00:01:27,380 --> 00:01:29,600 Hang on. Are these real headlines? 28 00:01:29,605 --> 00:01:32,415 They're real Nish. They're genuine headlines. Welcome to the world. 29 00:01:32,420 --> 00:01:35,060 They're real Nish. They're genuine headlines. Welcome to the world. 30 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:38,460 Nish, if you would. Please come and join me and let's see if we together can sort this mess out. 31 00:01:38,465 --> 00:01:41,005 Nish, if you would. Please come and join me and let's see if we together can sort this mess out. 32 00:01:41,395 --> 00:01:44,285 It's absolutely impossible to see where the line is, 33 00:01:44,285 --> 00:01:46,075 so I've come up with a series of visual aids to help you at home through this difficult time. 34 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:48,160 so I've come up with a series of visual aids to help you at home through this difficult time. 35 00:01:48,260 --> 00:01:52,100 So, the first one. The biggest question is: 'What is sexual harassment?' 36 00:01:52,105 --> 00:01:54,935 Okay. Well, let me first say. Very nice use of the Comic Sans font there, Rachel. 37 00:01:54,935 --> 00:01:56,665 Okay. Well, let me first say. Very nice use of the Comic Sans font there, Rachel. 38 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:00,800 Thank you, Nisham. If you're laughing, you're learning. 39 00:02:04,340 --> 00:02:05,740 Let's start at the start. 40 00:02:05,740 --> 00:02:08,815 So, first thing's first. 'Can I complement a woman?' Yes! 41 00:02:08,815 --> 00:02:11,745 You can say something like: 'Hello, you look well!'. That's fine. 42 00:02:11,745 --> 00:02:16,960 But you can't holler: 'Nice whaps!' from a car. 43 00:02:17,220 --> 00:02:20,195 Not anymore. Sorry, Nish. 44 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:22,500 Eh, what do you mean: 'Sorry Nish'? 45 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:25,880 "Allright be the good old days" 46 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,475 Okay. Is it okay to give a woman flowers? 47 00:02:30,475 --> 00:02:33,425 Yes. Yes! You're right Nish, 48 00:02:33,425 --> 00:02:39,260 as long as you don't put your penis in there. 49 00:02:40,580 --> 00:02:43,080 It's tricky, isn't it? 50 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:46,625 Is it okay to give a cheery hello to a lady? 51 00:02:46,625 --> 00:02:48,420 Yes! Of course it is. 52 00:02:48,420 --> 00:02:56,580 But not if you're hiding under her bed. 53 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,000 Not according to the PC brigade. (political correctness) 54 00:03:00,140 --> 00:03:02,300 Now, Nish. Take a look at the screen. 55 00:03:02,300 --> 00:03:05,580 And I'd like you to tell me Nish: do you think, in your view, that is this sexual harassment? 56 00:03:05,580 --> 00:03:07,300 And I'd like you to tell me Nish: do you think, in your view, that is this sexual harassment? 57 00:03:07,300 --> 00:03:10,300 'Hi Jan, can I borrow your stapler?' Eh, No! 58 00:03:10,500 --> 00:03:15,160 He has got an erection, Nish. 59 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,480 Having reviewed this picture and the angle he is standing at, 60 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:24,100 I now see that I was naive to think he was not fully erect. 61 00:03:24,100 --> 00:03:25,240 I now see that I was naive to think he was not fully erect. 62 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:26,880 Very good Nish. Although, 63 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,240 in truth it's impossible to tell, his arm is directly in the way. 64 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:30,440 in truth it's impossible to tell, his arm is directly in the way. 65 00:03:31,100 --> 00:03:33,900 Ehm, let's assume that this one is fine. But what about this one, Nish? 66 00:03:33,900 --> 00:03:40,460 'Jan, please come to the server room and wank me off.' 67 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:44,940 I'm going to say that's a definite 'not okay'. 68 00:03:44,940 --> 00:03:46,835 I'm going to say that's a definite 'not okay'. 69 00:03:46,835 --> 00:03:48,215 Yes, Nish. You got one right. 70 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:52,580 So, Nish... 71 00:03:52,740 --> 00:03:56,740 I'm going to do now some harassment role play with you. 72 00:03:56,740 --> 00:03:57,940 Okay. I'm immediately uncomfortable. 73 00:03:57,940 --> 00:04:00,300 Okay. I'm immediately uncomfortable. 74 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:03,755 Nish, don't worry. You're a non-threatening beta male, whose absolutely tailor-made for the friend zone. 75 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:08,160 Nish, don't worry. You're a non-threatening beta male, whose absolutely tailor-made for the friend zone. 76 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:16,040 So, Nish. Imagine we're in a normal pub situation 77 00:04:16,180 --> 00:04:19,779 and we're friends like we are, in a way. 78 00:04:21,260 --> 00:04:23,920 How would you great me normally in a pub? 79 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:24,740 Well, we were friends so I would just give you a hug. Exactly, so give me a hug now. 80 00:04:24,740 --> 00:04:25,760 Well, we were friends so I would just give you a hug. Exactly, so give me a hug now. 81 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:26,680 Well, we were friends so I would just give you a hug. Exactly, so give me a hug now. 82 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:30,480 But now hold that for a little bit too long 83 00:04:31,495 --> 00:04:34,295 So you know what that feels like, Nish. Does that feel right or wrong? 84 00:04:34,295 --> 00:04:37,325 It's feeling more and more wrong by the second. 85 00:04:37,325 --> 00:04:39,895 Yes, that's right Nish. If it feels wrong, it is wrong. 86 00:04:39,900 --> 00:04:40,940 Yes, that's right Nish. If it feels wrong, it is wrong. 87 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:45,235 Sometimes a simple greeting like a hug can be harassment if one of the participants 88 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:48,720 is obviously using it for their own weird gratification. 89 00:04:48,740 --> 00:04:52,800 Hugging is absolutely fine, Nish. But is blood suddenly moving to the groin area? 90 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:55,720 Hugging is absolutely fine, Nish. But is blood suddenly moving to the groin area? 91 00:04:55,740 --> 00:04:59,280 If it is then it's a bad hug. 92 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:01,780 And is it Nish? Is it? 93 00:05:01,780 --> 00:05:04,160 Eh, no. There's no blood flowing anywhere. Okay, wonderful! 94 00:05:05,065 --> 00:05:06,915 Thank you for your help. Thank you. 95 00:05:15,435 --> 00:05:17,575 "Don't look at the script, Nish". "It'll be fine, Nish". 96 00:05:18,785 --> 00:05:21,115 "You'll be able to wing it on the night". 97 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:25,220 "Of course we wouldn't do anything to make you feel uncomfortable". 98 00:05:27,260 --> 00:05:32,080 Welcome to womanhood. 99 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,955 So, I'm afraid that life is going to get harder now that 100 00:05:39,955 --> 00:05:42,925 we're not allowed to sexually harass anyone, of course it is. 101 00:05:43,225 --> 00:05:45,305 But, if you do stick to my handy guide we will 102 00:05:45,305 --> 00:05:46,705 manage to walk that terribly fine line between being a decent person 103 00:05:46,705 --> 00:05:49,385 manage to walk that terribly fine line between being a decent person 104 00:05:49,385 --> 00:05:51,000 and a complete wanker. 105 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:52,380 Good luck to you. 106 00:05:52,466 --> 00:05:54,785 Ladies and gentlemen: Rachel Parris.