0:00:01.503,0:00:05.010 Rachel, in the wake of the Weinstein scandal and the #me too campaign, 0:00:05.010,0:00:06.700 I believe you wanted to pick up on the confusion surrounding what actually constitutes sexual harrassment. 0:00:06.700,0:00:08.315 I believe you wanted to pick up on the confusion surrounding what actually constitutes sexual harrassment. 0:00:08.315,0:00:10.865 I believe you wanted to pick up on the confusion surrounding what actually constitutes sexual harrassment. 0:00:10.865,0:00:14.235 Yes, that's right Nish. Or should I say: stop sexually harrassing me, Nish! 0:00:14.235,0:00:20.278 Yes, that's right Nish. Or should I say: stop sexually harrassing me, Nish! 0:00:20.335,0:00:23.375 Because even talking to a woman is now completely off limits. Isn't that right Nish? 0:00:23.380,0:00:25.380 Because even talking to a woman is now completely off limits. Isn't that right Nish? 0:00:25.500,0:00:30.666 No! No, it's not Nish, but it's fun to pretend to be confused about that, isn't it? 0:00:35.220,0:00:37.760 In the light of recent revelations many men are feeling very worried about their own behaviour 0:00:37.760,0:00:40.715 In the light of recent revelations many men are feeling very worried about their own behaviour 0:00:40.715,0:00:43.495 and feeling a little bit threatened as well which makes me so sad. 0:00:43.795,0:00:46.815 'Well done, feminism.' says Martin in The Telegraph. 'Now men are afraid to help women at work' 0:00:46.815,0:00:49.135 'Well done, feminism.' says Martin in The Telefgraph. 'Now men are afraid to help women at work' 0:00:50.340,0:00:54.640 Well Nish, as ever The Daily Mail provides a very good barometer of the British public, 0:00:54.740,0:00:56.695 with this headline which actually happened: 0:00:56.695,0:00:59.305 'Is hugging still okay?' In the wake of the Weinstein sexual assault accusations, men ask: 0:00:59.305,0:01:02.305 'Is hugging still okay?' In the wake of the Weinstein sexual assault accusations, men ask: 0:01:02.305,0:01:06.200 'What is acceptable to women and society now?' 0:01:06.340,0:01:11.740 Sociologist Carol-Ann Peterson says in the article: 'Men do need to recognize that a sudden arm round the shoulder 0:01:11.740,0:01:13.680 or a pat on the butt isn't the innocuous gesture some might have thought.' 0:01:13.680,0:01:15.295 or a pat on the butt isn't the innocuous gesture some might have thought.' 0:01:15.295,0:01:16.785 or a pat on the butt isn't the innocuous gesture some might have thought.' 0:01:18.140,0:01:22.640 Oh Nish, it's an absolute minefield! What could possibly be wrong with spanking a colleague? 0:01:22.640,0:01:24.440 Or the prospect of a sudden arm grabbing you from the shadows? 0:01:24.440,0:01:27.380 Or the prospect of a sudden arm grabbing you from the shadows? 0:01:27.380,0:01:29.600 Hang on. Are these real headlines? 0:01:29.605,0:01:32.415 They're real Nish. They're genuine headlines. Welcome to the world. 0:01:32.420,0:01:35.060 They're real Nish. They're genuine headlines. Welcome to the world. 0:01:35.400,0:01:38.460 Nish, if you would. Please come and join me and let's see if we together can sort this mess out. 0:01:38.465,0:01:41.005 Nish, if you would. Please come and join me and let's see if we together can sort this mess out. 0:01:41.395,0:01:44.285 It's absolutely impossible to see where the line is, 0:01:44.285,0:01:46.075 so I've come up with a series of visual aids to help you at home through this difficult time. 0:01:46.080,0:01:48.160 so I've come up with a series of visual aids to help you at home through this difficult time. 0:01:48.260,0:01:52.100 So, the first one. The biggest question is: 'What is sexual harassment?' 0:01:52.105,0:01:54.935 Okay. Well, let me first say. Very nice use of the Comic Sans font there, Rachel. 0:01:54.935,0:01:56.665 Okay. Well, let me first say. Very nice use of the Comic Sans font there, Rachel. 0:01:57.560,0:02:00.800 Thank you, Nisham. If you're laughing, you're learning. 0:02:04.340,0:02:05.740 Let's start at the start. 0:02:05.740,0:02:08.815 So, first thing's first. 'Can I complement a woman?' Yes! 0:02:08.815,0:02:11.745 You can say something like: 'Hello, you look well!'. That's fine. 0:02:11.745,0:02:16.960 But you can't holler: 'Nice whaps!' from a car. 0:02:17.220,0:02:20.195 Not anymore. Sorry, Nish. 0:02:20.200,0:02:22.500 Eh, what do you mean: 'Sorry Nish'? 0:02:23.040,0:02:25.880 "Allright be the good old days" 0:02:27.400,0:02:30.475 Okay. Is it okay to give a woman flowers? 0:02:30.475,0:02:33.425 Yes. Yes! You're right Nish, 0:02:33.425,0:02:39.260 as long as you don't put your penis in there. 0:02:40.580,0:02:43.080 It's tricky, isn't it? 0:02:43.320,0:02:46.625 Is it okay to give a cheery hello to a lady? 0:02:46.625,0:02:48.420 Yes! Of course it is. 0:02:48.420,0:02:56.580 But not if you're hiding under her bed. 0:02:56.880,0:03:00.000 Not according to the PC brigade.[br](political correctness) 0:03:00.140,0:03:02.300 Now, Nish. Take a look at the screen. 0:03:02.300,0:03:05.580 And I'd like you to tell me Nish: do you think, in your view, that is this sexual harassment? 0:03:05.580,0:03:07.300 And I'd like you to tell me Nish: do you think, in your view, that is this sexual harassment? 0:03:07.300,0:03:10.300 'Hi Jan, can I borrow your stapler?'[br]Eh, No! 0:03:10.500,0:03:15.160 He has got an erection, Nish. 0:03:18.080,0:03:21.480 Having reviewed this picture and the angle he is standing at, 0:03:21.480,0:03:24.100 I now see that I was naive to think he was not fully erect. 0:03:24.100,0:03:25.240 I now see that I was naive to think he was not fully erect. 0:03:25.360,0:03:26.880 Very good Nish. Although, 0:03:26.880,0:03:29.240 in truth it's impossible to tell, his arm is directly in the way. 0:03:29.240,0:03:30.440 in truth it's impossible to tell, his arm is directly in the way. 0:03:31.100,0:03:33.900 Ehm, let's assume that this one is fine. But what about this one, Nish? 0:03:33.900,0:03:40.460 'Jan, please come to the server room and wank me off.' 0:03:42.360,0:03:44.940 I'm going to say that's a definite 'not okay'. 0:03:44.940,0:03:46.835 I'm going to say that's a definite 'not okay'. 0:03:46.835,0:03:48.215 Yes, Nish. You got one right. 0:03:51.240,0:03:52.580 So, Nish... 0:03:52.740,0:03:56.740 I'm going to do now some harassment role play with you. 0:03:56.740,0:03:57.940 Okay. I'm immediately uncomfortable. 0:03:57.940,0:04:00.300 Okay. I'm immediately uncomfortable. 0:04:00.320,0:04:03.755 Nish, don't worry. You're a non-threatening beta male, whose absolutely tailor-made for the friend zone. 0:04:03.760,0:04:08.160 Nish, don't worry. You're a non-threatening beta male, whose absolutely tailor-made for the friend zone. 0:04:13.040,0:04:16.040 So, Nish. Imagine we're in a normal pub situation 0:04:16.180,0:04:19.779 and we're friends like we are, in a way. 0:04:21.260,0:04:23.920 How would you great me normally in a pub? 0:04:23.920,0:04:24.740 Well, we were friends so I would just give you a hug.[br]Exactly, so give me a hug now. 0:04:24.740,0:04:25.760 Well, we were friends so I would just give you a hug.[br]Exactly, so give me a hug now. 0:04:25.760,0:04:26.680 Well, we were friends so I would just give you a hug.[br]Exactly, so give me a hug now. 0:04:27.000,0:04:30.480 But now hold that for a little bit too long 0:04:31.495,0:04:34.295 So you know what that feels like, Nish. Does that feel right or wrong? 0:04:34.295,0:04:37.325 It's feeling more and more wrong by the second. 0:04:37.325,0:04:39.895 Yes, that's right Nish. If it feels wrong, it is wrong. 0:04:39.900,0:04:40.940 Yes, that's right Nish. If it feels wrong, it is wrong. 0:04:41.600,0:04:45.235 Sometimes a simple greeting like a hug can be harassment if one of the participants 0:04:45.240,0:04:48.720 is obviously using it for their own weird gratification. 0:04:48.740,0:04:52.800 Hugging is absolutely fine, Nish. But is blood suddenly moving to the groin area? 0:04:52.800,0:04:55.720 Hugging is absolutely fine, Nish. But is blood suddenly moving to the groin area? 0:04:55.740,0:04:59.280 If it is then it's a bad hug. 0:04:59.760,0:05:01.780 And is it Nish? Is it? 0:05:01.780,0:05:04.160 Eh, no. There's no blood flowing anywhere.[br]Okay, wonderful! 0:05:05.065,0:05:06.915 Thank you for your help. Thank you. 0:05:15.435,0:05:17.575 "Don't look at the script, Nish".[br]"It'll be fine, Nish". 0:05:18.785,0:05:21.115 "You'll be able to wing it on the night". 0:05:21.120,0:05:25.220 "Of course we wouldn't do anything to make you feel uncomfortable". 0:05:27.260,0:05:32.080 Welcome to womanhood. 0:05:37.440,0:05:39.955 So, I'm afraid that life is going to get harder now that 0:05:39.955,0:05:42.925 we're not allowed to sexually harass anyone, of course it is. 0:05:43.225,0:05:45.305 But, if you do stick to my handy guide we will 0:05:45.305,0:05:46.705 manage to walk that terribly fine line between being a decent person 0:05:46.705,0:05:49.385 manage to walk that terribly fine line between being a decent person 0:05:49.385,0:05:51.000 and a complete wanker. 0:05:51.200,0:05:52.380 Good luck to you. 0:05:52.466,0:05:54.785 Ladies and gentlemen: Rachel Parris.