The language of being human
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0:01 - 0:02Poet Ali: Hi.
Audience: Hi. -
0:03 - 0:06PA: I want to ask you guys a question.
How many languages do you speak? -
0:06 - 0:08This is not a rhetorical question.
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0:08 - 0:10I actually want you to think of a number.
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0:10 - 0:12For some of you, it's pretty easy.
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0:12 - 0:16Inside your head, you're like, "It's one.
You're speaking it, buddy. I'm done." -
0:16 - 0:17Others of you maybe are wondering
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0:17 - 0:20if the language an ex-boyfriend
or ex-girlfriend taught you, -
0:20 - 0:22where you learned all the cusswords,
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0:22 - 0:24if it counts -- go ahead and count it.
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0:24 - 0:26When I asked myself the question,
I came up with four, -
0:26 - 0:28arguably five, if I've been drinking.
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0:29 - 0:30(Laughter)
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0:30 - 0:33(In Italian: With a little bit of wine
I can speak Italian.) -
0:33 - 0:35(Applause)
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0:35 - 0:37Cheers!
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0:37 - 0:40But on closer examination,
I came up with 83 -- 83 languages, -
0:40 - 0:42and I got tired and I stopped counting.
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0:42 - 0:46And it forced me to revisit
this definition that we have of language. -
0:46 - 0:47The first entry said,
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0:47 - 0:50"The method of human communication,
either spoken or written, -
0:50 - 0:53consisting of the use of words
in a structured or conventional way." -
0:53 - 0:56The definition at the bottom refers
to specialized fields, -
0:56 - 0:59like medicine, science, tech.
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0:59 - 1:00We know they have their own vernacular,
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1:00 - 1:02their own jargon.
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1:02 - 1:05But what most interested me was
that definition right in the center there: -
1:05 - 1:10"the system of communication used
by a particular community or country." -
1:10 - 1:13And I'm not interested
in altering this definition. -
1:13 - 1:16I'm interested in applying it
to everything we do, -
1:16 - 1:19because I believe that we speak
far more languages than we realize. -
1:19 - 1:22And for the rest of our time together,
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1:22 - 1:24I'm going to attempt
to speak in one language -
1:24 - 1:27that is native to every single
human being in this room. -
1:27 - 1:29But that changes things a little bit,
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1:29 - 1:32because then it's no longer
a presentation. -
1:32 - 1:34It becomes a conversation,
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1:34 - 1:36and in any conversation,
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1:36 - 1:38there must be some sort of interaction.
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1:38 - 1:41And for any interaction to happen,
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1:41 - 1:45there has to be a degree
of willingness on both parties. -
1:45 - 1:49And I think if we just are willing,
we will see the magic that can happen -
1:49 - 1:51with just a little bit of willingness.
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1:51 - 1:56So I've chosen a relatively low-risk
common denominator -
1:56 - 1:59that can kind of gauge
if we're all willing. -
1:59 - 2:01If you're happy and you know it,
clap your hands. -
2:01 - 2:02(Claps)
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2:02 - 2:05Now you're talking!
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2:05 - 2:07(In Spanish: For all the people
who speak Spanish, -
2:07 - 2:09please stand up.
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2:11 - 2:14And look at a person sitting to your side
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2:14 - 2:16and start laughing.)
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2:16 - 2:20(Laughter)
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2:20 - 2:22Thank you so much.
Please be seated. -
2:22 - 2:24Now, if that felt a little bit awkward,
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2:24 - 2:27I promise there was no joke
being had at your expense. -
2:27 - 2:32I simply asked the Spanish-speaking
audience to stand up, -
2:32 - 2:36look at a person that was sitting
close to them and laugh. -
2:36 - 2:39And I know that wasn't nice,
and I'm sorry, -
2:39 - 2:40but in that moment,
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2:41 - 2:43some of us felt something.
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2:43 - 2:45You see, we're often aware
of what language does -
2:45 - 2:47when we speak somebody's language,
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2:47 - 2:49what it does to connect,
what it does to bind. -
2:49 - 2:52But we often forget what it does
when you can't speak that language, -
2:52 - 2:55what it does to isolate,
what it does to exclude. -
2:55 - 2:58And I want us to hold on
as we journey through -
2:58 - 3:01our little walk of languages here.
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3:01 - 3:04(In Farsi: I'd like to translate
the idea of "taarof.") -
3:04 - 3:06I said in Farsi, "I'd like to translate
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3:06 - 3:09this idea of 'taarof'
in the Persian culture," -
3:09 - 3:13which, really -- it has no equivalent
in the English lexicon. -
3:13 - 3:16The best definition would be
something like an extreme grace -
3:16 - 3:17or an extreme humility.
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3:17 - 3:19But that doesn't quite get the job done.
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3:19 - 3:20So I'll give you an example.
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3:20 - 3:22If two gentlemen
were walking by each other, -
3:22 - 3:25it'd be very common
for the first one to say, -
3:25 - 3:26(In Farsi: I am indebted to you),
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3:26 - 3:28which means, "I am indebted to you."
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3:28 - 3:30The other gentlemen would respond back,
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3:30 - 3:32(In Farsi: I open my shirt for you)
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3:32 - 3:34which means, "I open my shirt for you."
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3:35 - 3:37The first guy would respond back,
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3:37 - 3:38(In Farsi: I am your servant)
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3:38 - 3:40which means, "I am your servant."
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3:40 - 3:42And then the second guy
would respond back to him, -
3:42 - 3:44(In Farsi: I am the dirt
beneath your feet) -
3:44 - 3:47which literally means,
"I am the dirt beneath your feet." -
3:47 - 3:48(Laughter)
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3:48 - 3:51Here's an exhibit for you guys,
in case you didn't get the picture. -
3:51 - 3:52(Laughter)
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3:52 - 3:55And I share that with you, because
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3:55 - 3:59with new languages come new concepts
that didn't exist before. -
3:59 - 4:00And the other thing is,
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4:01 - 4:04sometimes we think language is about
understanding the meaning of a word, -
4:04 - 4:09but I believe language is about
making a word meaningful for yourself. -
4:09 - 4:12If I were to flash this series
of words on the screen, -
4:12 - 4:15some of you, you'd know exactly
what it is right away. -
4:15 - 4:18Others of you, you might
struggle a little bit. -
4:18 - 4:20And I could probably draw
a pretty clear-cut line -
4:20 - 4:25right around the age
of 35 and older, 35 and younger. -
4:25 - 4:27And for those of us that are in the know,
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4:27 - 4:29we know that's text-speak,
or SMS language. -
4:29 - 4:33It's a series of characters meant
to convey the most amount of meaning -
4:33 - 4:35with the least amount of characters,
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4:35 - 4:38which sounds pretty similar
to our definition of languages: -
4:38 - 4:41"system of communication
used by a community." -
4:41 - 4:44Now, anyone who's ever got
into an argument via text -
4:44 - 4:50can make a case for how it's maybe
not the best method of communication, -
4:50 - 4:52but what if I told you
that what you saw earlier -
4:52 - 4:54was a modern-day love letter?
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4:54 - 4:56If you follow along:
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4:56 - 4:58"For the time being, I love you lots,
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4:58 - 5:01because you positively bring out
all the best in me, -
5:01 - 5:04and I laugh out loud, in other words,
let's me know what's up. -
5:04 - 5:07'Cause you are a cutie in my opinion,
and as far as I know to see you, -
5:07 - 5:10if you're not seeing someone,
would make happy. -
5:10 - 5:13For your information,
I'll be right there forever. -
5:13 - 5:15In any case, keep in touch,
no response necessary, -
5:15 - 5:18all my best wishes, don't know,
don't care if anyone sees this. -
5:18 - 5:21Don't go there, see you later,
bye for now, hugs and kisses, -
5:21 - 5:23you only live once."
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5:23 - 5:25(Applause)
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5:25 - 5:29Kind of a modern-day Romeo or Juliet.
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5:29 - 5:31In that moment, if you laughed,
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5:31 - 5:34you spoke another language
that needs no explanation: laughter. -
5:34 - 5:37It's one of the most common
languages in the world. -
5:37 - 5:41We don't have to explain it to each other,
it's just something we all feel, -
5:41 - 5:44and that's why things like laughter
and things like music are so prevalent, -
5:44 - 5:48because they seem to somehow
transcend explanation -
5:48 - 5:50and convey a profound amount of meaning.
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5:51 - 5:54Every language we learn is a portal
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5:54 - 5:56by which we can access another language.
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5:56 - 5:59The more you know, the more you can speak.
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5:59 - 6:01And it's something common that we all do.
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6:01 - 6:04We take any new concept,
and we filter it through -
6:04 - 6:08an already existing access
of reality within us. -
6:08 - 6:10And that's why languages are so important,
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6:10 - 6:13because they give us access to new worlds,
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6:13 - 6:14not just people.
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6:14 - 6:18It's not just about seeing or hearing,
it's about feeling, experiencing, sharing. -
6:19 - 6:21And despite these languages
that we've covered, -
6:21 - 6:22I really don't think we've covered
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6:22 - 6:24one of the most profound
languages, -
6:24 - 6:26and that's the language of experience.
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6:26 - 6:28That's why when you're
talking with someone, -
6:28 - 6:32if they've shared something you've shared,
you don't need to explain it much. -
6:32 - 6:35Or that's why, when you're sharing
a story and you finish, -
6:35 - 6:37and the people you're talking to
don't quite get it, -
6:37 - 6:39the first thing we all say is,
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6:39 - 6:41"Guess you had to be there."
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6:41 - 6:45I guess you had to be here this week
to know what this is about. -
6:45 - 6:47It's kind of hard to explain, isn't it?
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6:47 - 6:50And for the sake of our research,
I'm going to close by asking -
6:50 - 6:54that you participate one more time
in this language of experience. -
6:54 - 6:56I'm going to filter
through some languages, -
6:56 - 6:58and if I'm speaking your language,
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6:58 - 7:00I'm going to ask that you just stand
and you stay standing. -
7:00 - 7:02You don't need to ask permission,
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7:02 - 7:04just let me know that you see me,
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7:04 - 7:06and I can also see you
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7:06 - 7:08if you speak this language of experience.
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7:10 - 7:12Do you speak this language?
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7:13 - 7:16When I was growing up in primary school,
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7:16 - 7:18at the end of the year,
we would have these parties, -
7:18 - 7:22and we'd vote on whether we wanted
to celebrate at an amusement park -
7:22 - 7:23or a water park.
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7:23 - 7:26And I would really hope the party
wasn't at a water park, -
7:26 - 7:28because then I'd have
to be in a bathing suit. -
7:29 - 7:33I don't know about you, but sometimes
when I approach a dressing room, -
7:33 - 7:35my sweat glands start
activating on their own, -
7:35 - 7:38because I know the garment is not
going to look on me -
7:38 - 7:39like it did on that mannequin.
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7:39 - 7:40Or how about this?
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7:40 - 7:43When I would go to family functions
or family gatherings, -
7:43 - 7:45every time I wanted a second plate --
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7:46 - 7:48and I usually did --
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7:48 - 7:49(Laughter)
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7:49 - 7:52it was a whole exercise
in cost-benefit analysis, -
7:52 - 7:54my relatives looking at me like,
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7:54 - 7:58"I don't know. Do you really need that?
Looks like you're doing OK there, bud." -
7:58 - 8:02Did my cheeks have a big
"Pinch me" sign that I didn't see? -
8:02 - 8:05And if you're squirming
or you're laughing or you stood up, -
8:05 - 8:07or you're beginning to stand,
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8:07 - 8:09you're speaking the language
that I endearingly call -
8:09 - 8:11"the language of growing up a fat kid."
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8:12 - 8:16And any body-image issue
is a dialect of that language. -
8:17 - 8:18I want you to stay standing.
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8:18 - 8:22Again, if I'm speaking your language,
please go ahead and stand. -
8:23 - 8:25Imagine two bills in my hand.
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8:25 - 8:28One is the phone bill,
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8:28 - 8:29and one is the electric bill.
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8:30 - 8:34Eeny, meeny, miny, mo,
pay one off, let the other one go, -
8:34 - 8:38which means, "I might not have enough
to pay both at the current moment." -
8:39 - 8:42You've got to be resourceful.
You've got to figure it out. -
8:42 - 8:46And if you're standing, you know
the language of barely making ends meet, -
8:46 - 8:47of financial struggle.
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8:48 - 8:51And if you've been lucky enough
to speak that language, -
8:51 - 8:55you understand that there is
no motivator of greatness like deficiency. -
8:55 - 9:00Not having resources,
not having looks, not having finances -
9:00 - 9:02can often be the barren soil
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9:02 - 9:07from which the most productive seeds
are painstakingly plowed and harvested. -
9:08 - 9:10I'm going to ask
if you speak this language. -
9:12 - 9:14The second you recognize it,
feel free to stand. -
9:16 - 9:20When we heard the diagnosis,
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9:22 - 9:23I thought, "Not that word.
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9:24 - 9:26Anything but that word.
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9:26 - 9:27I hate that word."
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9:29 - 9:31And then you ask a series of questions:
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9:31 - 9:32"Are you sure?"
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9:34 - 9:35"Has it spread?"
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9:36 - 9:37"How long?"
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9:37 - 9:38"Doctor, how long?"
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9:39 - 9:43And a series of answers
determines a person's life. -
9:44 - 9:48And when my dad was hungry,
we'd all rush to the dinner table to eat, -
9:48 - 9:49because that's what we did before.
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9:49 - 9:52We ate together, so we were
going to continue doing that. -
9:53 - 9:56And I didn't understand
why we were losing this battle, -
9:56 - 9:59because I was taught if you fight
and if you have the right spirit, -
9:59 - 10:00you're supposed to win.
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10:00 - 10:02And we weren't winning.
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10:03 - 10:04For any of you that stood up,
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10:04 - 10:06you know very well that
I'm speaking the language -
10:06 - 10:09of watching a loved one battle cancer.
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10:09 - 10:13(Applause)
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10:14 - 10:18Any terminal illness
is a derivative of that language. -
10:20 - 10:22I'm going to speak one last language.
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10:28 - 10:29Oh -- no, no, I'm listening.
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10:30 - 10:33Yeah, yeah, yeah, no no, no no,
me and you, right here, yup. -
10:33 - 10:35(Laughter)
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10:35 - 10:37No, I'm with ya. I'm with ya!
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10:37 - 10:39(Laughter)
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10:39 - 10:43Or, imagine the lights are all off and
a blue light is just shining in your face -
10:43 - 10:45as you're laying on the bed.
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10:45 - 10:46And I know some of you, like me,
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10:46 - 10:48have dropped that phone
right on your face. -
10:48 - 10:50(Laughter)
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10:51 - 10:53Or this one, right?
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10:54 - 10:57Passenger seat freaking out,
like, "Can you watch the road?" -
10:57 - 11:00And for anybody that stood up,
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11:00 - 11:05you speak the language that I like to call
"the language of disconnection." -
11:06 - 11:09It's been called
the language of connection, -
11:09 - 11:11but I like to call it
the language of disconnection. -
11:11 - 11:14I don't mean disconnection,
I mean disconnection, -
11:14 - 11:15human disconnection,
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11:15 - 11:18disconnected from each other,
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11:18 - 11:20from where we are, from our own thoughts,
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11:20 - 11:22so we can occupy another space.
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11:25 - 11:26If you're not standing,
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11:29 - 11:31you probably know what it's like
to feel left out. -
11:32 - 11:35(Laughter)
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11:35 - 11:38(Applause)
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11:38 - 11:43You probably -- you know what it's like
when everybody's a part of something, -
11:45 - 11:47and you're not.
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11:47 - 11:49You know what it's like
being the minority. -
11:49 - 11:51And now that I'm speaking your language,
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11:51 - 11:53I'm going to ask you to stand,
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11:53 - 11:55since we're speaking the same language.
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11:55 - 11:57Because I believe that language
of being the minority -
11:57 - 12:01is one of the most important languages
you can ever speak in your life, -
12:01 - 12:03because how you feel
in that position of compromise -
12:03 - 12:06will directly determine how you act
in that position of power. -
12:08 - 12:09Thank you for participating.
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12:09 - 12:12If you'd take a seat,
I want to speak one last language. -
12:12 - 12:14(Applause)
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12:17 - 12:19This one, you don't need to stand.
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12:19 - 12:22I just want to see if you recognize it.
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12:24 - 12:26Most the girls in the world
are complainin' about it. -
12:27 - 12:30Most the poems in the world
been written about it. -
12:30 - 12:33Most the music on the radio
be hittin' about it, kickin' about it, -
12:33 - 12:34or rippin' about it.
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12:35 - 12:37Most the verses in the game
people spittin' about it, -
12:37 - 12:40most the songs in the world,
people talkin' about it. -
12:40 - 12:43Most the broken hearts I know
are walkin' without it, -
12:43 - 12:44started to doubt it,
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12:44 - 12:46or lost without it.
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12:46 - 12:49Most the shadows in the dark
have forgotten about it. -
12:49 - 12:51Everybody in the world
would be trippin' without it. -
12:51 - 12:54Every boy and every girl
will be dead without it, -
12:54 - 12:56struggle without it, nothing without it.
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12:57 - 12:59Most the pages that are filled
are filled about it. -
12:59 - 13:00["It" = Love]
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13:00 - 13:03The tears that are spilled
are spilled about it. -
13:03 - 13:06The people that have felt it
are real about it. -
13:06 - 13:08A life without it, you'd be lost.
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13:08 - 13:10When I'm in it and I feel it,
I be shoutin' about it. -
13:10 - 13:13Everybody in the whole world
knowin' about it. -
13:13 - 13:15I'm hurt and broke down
and be flowin' about it, -
13:15 - 13:17goin' about it wrong
'cause I didn't allow it. -
13:17 - 13:19Can the wound or scar heal without it?
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13:19 - 13:22Can't the way that you feel
be concealed about it? -
13:22 - 13:25Everybody has their own ideal about it,
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13:25 - 13:26dream about it,
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13:26 - 13:28appeal about it.
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13:28 - 13:30So what's the deal about it?
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13:30 - 13:32Are you 'bout it to know
that life is a dream -
13:33 - 13:34and unreal without it?
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13:34 - 13:36But I'm just a writer.
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13:36 - 13:37What can I reveal about it?
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13:38 - 13:42Why is it that the most spoken-about
language in the world -
13:42 - 13:46is the one we have the toughest time
speaking or expressing? -
13:46 - 13:48No matter how many books,
how many seminars, -
13:48 - 13:51how many life-coaching sessions we go to,
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13:51 - 13:53we just can't get enough of it.
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13:54 - 13:55And I ask you now:
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13:55 - 13:58Is that number that you had
at the beginning, has that changed? -
13:58 - 14:01And I challenge you, when you see someone,
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14:01 - 14:02to ask yourself:
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14:03 - 14:05What languages do we share?
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14:06 - 14:07And if you don't come up with anything,
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14:07 - 14:10ask yourself: What languages
could we share? -
14:10 - 14:12And if you still don't
come up with anything, -
14:13 - 14:15ask yourself: What languages can I learn?
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14:16 - 14:19And now matter how inconsequential
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14:19 - 14:24or insignificant that conversation
seems at the moment, -
14:24 - 14:26I promise you it will
serve you in the future. -
14:27 - 14:29My name is Poet Ali. Thank you.
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14:29 - 14:36(Applause)
- Title:
- The language of being human
- Speaker:
- Poet Ali
- Description:
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You speak far more languages than you realize, says Poet Ali. In a profound talk, he reveals how the idea of "language" goes far beyond a lexicon of words, communicating universal experiences like love, laughter and loneliness -- and serving as a portal to cultures, feelings and thoughts that unite us all.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 14:55
Erin Gregory edited English subtitles for The language of being human | ||
Brian Greene edited English subtitles for The language of being human | ||
Erin Gregory edited English subtitles for The language of being human | ||
Erin Gregory edited English subtitles for The language of being human | ||
Erin Gregory edited English subtitles for The language of being human | ||
Erin Gregory edited English subtitles for The language of being human | ||
Erin Gregory edited English subtitles for The language of being human | ||
Erin Gregory edited English subtitles for The language of being human |