What's between my legs: a universal concern | Dana Lawand | TEDxLAU
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0:17 - 0:22240 women are murdered
every year in Afghanistan. -
0:23 - 0:29565 women are murdered
every year in Iran. -
0:30 - 0:344000 women are murdered in Pakistan.
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0:34 - 0:40Actually, between the years 1997 and 2004,
these 4000 women were murdered. -
0:40 - 0:44I'm not just talking about women dying;
they are being killed. -
0:46 - 0:47Well, let's think about it.
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0:47 - 0:49These statistics aren't actually -
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0:49 - 0:52I mean, they're more
like an underestimation -
0:52 - 0:55of the actual frequency
of murders that happens, -
0:55 - 0:58well, because they're not well documented.
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0:58 - 1:01But when you think
about these women dying, -
1:01 - 1:03being killed,
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1:03 - 1:04why do think is that?
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1:04 - 1:11It's actually in the name
of honor, pride, dignity, -
1:11 - 1:12not only hers,
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1:12 - 1:15but her father's, her uncles',
her brothers', -
1:15 - 1:16whatever men in the family,
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1:16 - 1:19you know, for that image
in the community, yeah? -
1:19 - 1:26Well, moving on from honor crime
to female genital mutilation: -
1:26 - 1:29For those of you who aren't familiar
with genital mutilation, -
1:29 - 1:32it is genital cutting.
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1:32 - 1:36Some people choose to call it,
I don't know, female circumcision -
1:36 - 1:39to, like, you know, sugarcoat it,
make it sound nicer. -
1:39 - 1:40But can you not?
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1:40 - 1:43Because female genital mutilation
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1:43 - 1:47is the absolute manipulation
of the female outer genitalia -
1:47 - 1:53to make sure that her vaginal opening
does not welcome penile penetration. -
1:54 - 1:56And it is actually so common
around the world -
1:56 - 1:59that the World Health Organization
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1:59 - 2:04has actually stated
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2:04 - 2:07that there are four
different types of mutilation. -
2:08 - 2:10So, the first type:
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2:11 - 2:14We cut off the clitoris.
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2:14 - 2:15What is the clitoris? you may ask.
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2:15 - 2:18It is the most sensitive part
of a woman's body. -
2:19 - 2:24It actually has 8,000 nerve endings,
twice as many as the penis. -
2:24 - 2:26You know, actually,
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2:26 - 2:29the evolutionary equivalent
of the clitoris in the male -
2:29 - 2:30is the glans of the penis,
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2:30 - 2:32and it has other functions,
such as the urethra, -
2:32 - 2:33where they urinate from,
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2:33 - 2:39but in the woman, its whole purpose
is female sexual pleasure. -
2:40 - 2:42But in the first time,
they just cut it out. -
2:43 - 2:46And the second type of mutilation:
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2:46 - 2:49We cut out the clitoris
and the inner lips of the vagina, -
2:49 - 2:50the labia minora.
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2:50 - 2:53And the third type,
it's called infibulation, -
2:53 - 2:56and that is where you try
to narrow down the vaginal orifice -
2:56 - 2:58just to make sure that it doesn't fit,
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2:58 - 3:00or you form a seal.
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3:00 - 3:02I mean, yeah, you've got
to form a seal in the vagina, -
3:02 - 3:04not that we need it for anything else,
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3:04 - 3:07like, I don't know,
menstruation every month. -
3:07 - 3:09How else is the blood going to go out?
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3:10 - 3:11Fourth type:
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3:11 - 3:14Flaunt your skills;
you can scrape it, pierce it. -
3:14 - 3:17I mean, she's either 5 or 15
or in between, -
3:17 - 3:18and it is non-consensual anyway,
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3:18 - 3:21so do whatever the hell you want with it,
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3:21 - 3:23you can attach different parts of it,
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3:23 - 3:24feel free.
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3:24 - 3:29It is like this girl is a commodity,
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3:30 - 3:31a product
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3:31 - 3:35that has to be passed down
from her first owner, the father, -
3:35 - 3:40to the second owner,
the husband or the client. -
3:40 - 3:45And because, I mean,
"high quality service," you know, -
3:45 - 3:47so we have to make sure
that she's untouched. -
3:47 - 3:48Can't use a used product in the market,
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3:48 - 3:53and if it is used, manipulated, modified,
we throw it out of the market. -
3:53 - 3:56And that makes their killing justifiable?
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3:56 - 3:59You have to make sure
that you manipulate the vagina -
3:59 - 4:02in order to make sure that she
does not engage in sex before marriage -
4:02 - 4:04or that if she does,
it is a painful experience - -
4:04 - 4:05and we're good?
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4:05 - 4:07Why?
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4:07 - 4:12Why is the world
so fixated on the vagina? -
4:13 - 4:17In the Bible, in film, in literature,
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4:17 - 4:20the female body has always been
a vessel to sin. -
4:21 - 4:24Women aren't allowed to think about sex,
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4:24 - 4:27to express sexuality,
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4:27 - 4:29let alone engage in sexual intercourse.
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4:29 - 4:32A lot of women abstain from
sexual intercourse before marriage - -
4:32 - 4:33all respect to them.
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4:33 - 4:36A lot of women choose
to not have sex their whole lives -
4:36 - 4:39in order to honor the relationship
with God - all respect to them. -
4:39 - 4:43But we also have to respect
the choice of other women as well. -
4:43 - 4:46And I have to clarify one thing:
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4:46 - 4:47The virginity concept,
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4:47 - 4:50abstaining from sex,
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4:50 - 4:52has nothing to do
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4:52 - 4:55with whatever it is that you think
is between that woman's legs, -
4:55 - 4:56the hymen.
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4:56 - 4:58Because we can't judge
a woman based on that -
4:58 - 5:01if you don't even know enough about it.
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5:01 - 5:04I mean, some girls don't even have that.
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5:04 - 5:06Oh well, what is the hymen?
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5:06 - 5:07I think as a medical student,
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5:07 - 5:09I have studied my anatomy enough
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5:09 - 5:14to tell you that the hymen
is more like a doughnut. -
5:15 - 5:17It has a hole.
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5:17 - 5:19I hate to break it to you - pun intended -
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5:19 - 5:20but it has a hole.
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5:21 - 5:24And actually, it might have
different holes around it -
5:24 - 5:26and sometimes some fringes in the middle.
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5:26 - 5:30I mean, it comes in different shapes
and sizes and states -
5:30 - 5:31in different women.
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5:32 - 5:34And there's another thing
that I'd like to clarify - -
5:34 - 5:35actually, two things,
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5:35 - 5:38some misconceptions about this hymen.
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5:38 - 5:40I mean, some men pride themselves
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5:40 - 5:43that "Oh, she's going through pain.
I broke her hymen." -
5:43 - 5:45Nuh-uh, no.
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5:45 - 5:49What actually happens
is that the hymen has no nerve endings, -
5:49 - 5:54so you can't feel pain
if it's breaking or sustaining any damage. -
5:54 - 5:57What is actually going on
when she's going through pain -
5:57 - 6:01is that her vaginal opening,
the canal is not well dilated -
6:01 - 6:04because there's somethings you have to do
before sexual intercourse -
6:04 - 6:05to put her in the mood.
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6:05 - 6:09So if she's not in the mood,
if it's non-consensual sexual assault, -
6:09 - 6:11or if she's just not wanting it,
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6:11 - 6:13then it's not going to be open,
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6:13 - 6:15you're just going to make her feel pain.
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6:15 - 6:18But when you do
what you have to do before that, -
6:18 - 6:22the brain is going to transmit
those nervous signals to the muscles, -
6:22 - 6:25they're going to relax,
the canal will dilate, -
6:25 - 6:27and - welcome.
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6:28 - 6:30(Laughter)
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6:31 - 6:35Another thing I'd like to clarify
is staining the bedsheets. -
6:36 - 6:38In fact - I don't know if you know that -
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6:38 - 6:42half of you will bleed and half of you
will not bleed on your first time. -
6:43 - 6:46It's like flipping a coin:
we'll either bleed or not bleed. -
6:46 - 6:51Oh well, so it's like
if you are going to judge a woman -
6:51 - 6:53based on whether she stains
the bed sheets or not -
6:53 - 6:55and actually kill her if she doesn't -
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6:55 - 6:57and that has happened
and we all know that, -
6:57 - 6:59it's documented, look it up -
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6:59 - 7:03it's like you're flipping a coin
to see if she's going to die or live. -
7:03 - 7:05What do you think about that?
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7:06 - 7:09There's actually another thing
that I'd like to talk about: -
7:09 - 7:10the virginity test,
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7:10 - 7:13which is the examination of the hymen,
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7:13 - 7:16the state of the hymen,
whether it sustained any damage, -
7:16 - 7:19and it's basically a procedure
where a gynecologist comes in, -
7:19 - 7:20he opens your legs,
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7:20 - 7:23either visually or invasively
examining the state of your hymen. -
7:23 - 7:28And there was a study, actually,
that was done on 36 pregnant women - -
7:29 - 7:30emphasis on "pregnant" -
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7:30 - 7:36and the gynecologist came in too,
and he checked their hymens. -
7:36 - 7:38And the result of that test
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7:38 - 7:42was that 34 were virgins
and 2 were not virgins, -
7:42 - 7:44according to the state of that hymen.
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7:45 - 7:46What does that tell you
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7:46 - 7:48about the reliability
of the virginity test? -
7:48 - 7:52That is being used in child applications
in Algeria and Morocco. -
7:52 - 7:54I mean, we're in 2019,
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7:54 - 7:56and people are still invading
the woman's privacy. -
7:56 - 8:01The World Health Organization,
UN Women, and UN Human Rights Council -
8:01 - 8:07have all stated that the virginity test
is unreliable, unethical, -
8:07 - 8:11a form of violence against women,
an invasion of women's privacy, -
8:11 - 8:12and must therefore be banned,
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8:12 - 8:14and they're working on that.
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8:15 - 8:18I mean, we're scaring
our little girls, really are! -
8:18 - 8:19You're teaching that girl
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8:19 - 8:22that your worth,
that your pride, your dignity - -
8:22 - 8:23not only yours but your father's -
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8:23 - 8:26is all between those two legs of yours.
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8:26 - 8:27Why?
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8:27 - 8:30Those girls are afraid of riding bikes
to not break the hymen. -
8:30 - 8:33They're afraid of exercising
to not break that hymen. -
8:33 - 8:35Because once it's gone,
that's your worth - -
8:35 - 8:38it's down there,
your father's is down there too. -
8:38 - 8:42I mean, girls are undergoing
hymenoplasties. -
8:42 - 8:46A hymenoplasty is a surgical procedure
that re-establishes the hymen, -
8:46 - 8:48to fake virginity.
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8:48 - 8:50They're going to have
all the sex they want, -
8:50 - 8:52but because you guys think that way -
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8:52 - 8:54the community -
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8:54 - 8:56she has to re-establish that hymen.
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8:56 - 8:58And that is the main problem.
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8:58 - 9:00If you go online - there's a picture -
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9:00 - 9:03you can find an artificial hymen
we can put in the vagina -
9:03 - 9:04with fake virgin blood.
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9:04 - 9:08I mean, the patriarchy is working hard,
but China's working much harder. -
9:08 - 9:10(Laughter)
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9:10 - 9:14(Applause)
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9:19 - 9:22So let's talk about female sexuality.
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9:22 - 9:24Let us not judge a woman
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9:24 - 9:26based on what she chooses
to do with her body, -
9:26 - 9:28something totally instinctive and natural.
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9:28 - 9:31I mean, if you want to know
if a girl is a virgin or not - -
9:31 - 9:34not that it's any of your business -
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9:34 - 9:36all you have to do is ask her.
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9:36 - 9:39And this vagina
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9:39 - 9:42that you have been shaming your whole life
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9:42 - 9:44is the reason you're all here today.
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9:44 - 9:47And thank you for coming to my TEDx Talk.
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9:47 - 9:49(Cheers) (Applause)
- Title:
- What's between my legs: a universal concern | Dana Lawand | TEDxLAU
- Description:
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Yes, it's 2019 and we shouldn't need to talk about this anymore. But the numbers don't lie... and people's obsession with women's sexuality (or abstinence) continues to affect a lot of lives. A 22-year-old medical student at LAU. Whenever she’s not studying, you’ll find her reading about natural selection or fighting for minority rights. That’s her drive. In a world full of discriminatory mindsets and subliminal animosity, she tries to be the voice of the silenced. She also dared to doubt the norms around her one day. She broke out of her own box, and that was when she found purpose. Her motto is: Be the voice of the unseen, untouched, unheard. A global purpose.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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- English
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- Duration:
- 09:57
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