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How to Find a Core Belief

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Hello there.

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We are creators.

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We are extensions of what 
we call God or Source.

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As such, we are creating 
our collective reality

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as well as our lives

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with the thoughts that 
we think every single day.

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Even if you don't believe

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that your thoughts literally weave

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the fabric of our reality,

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it's undeniable that the 
thoughts that we think,

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dictate the decisions we make,

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and that the decisions 
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plot the course of our entire lives.

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So it's easy to see

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how living a happy life 
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upon finding these 
thoughts and beliefs

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that are painful, 
and changing them.

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There are beliefs that we 
could call surface beliefs.

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Beliefs like, black people are angry,

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kids should clean their rooms,

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I have to keep my job,

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women are flaky.

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These kinds of thoughts 
are like branches of a tree.

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Each one of them is the by-product

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of a deeper core belief.

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The core belief is like 
the root of a tree.

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Core beliefs are the building blocks

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of the life that we're living.

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They're the source from 
which everything grows,

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and most importantly,

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they are the very source 
of how we see ourselves,

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and how we see the 
universe we live in.

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They're both the root of the joy

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and the root of the 
suffering in our lives.

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Some examples of core beliefs are:

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"I am unlovable."

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"I will be hurt if I get 
close to someone."

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Or, "There is no point to life."

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Core beliefs can be 
positive or negative,

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but for the sake of this episode,

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I'm going to focus on 
negatives core beliefs

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because they're the ones 
that are not working for us.

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Core beliefs are mostly subconscious.

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They are the result of 
impactful experiences

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that we had in our childhoods.

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Most often core 
beliefs are the result

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of repeated experiences 
that are similar.

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When we experience those things,

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and we get those core beliefs 
as a result of those experiences,

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they become inflexible 
and deeply, deeply rooted.

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As a result, what we 
tend to do is to ignore

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anything that invalidates those beliefs,

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while paying attention to 
anything that validates them.

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Thus we get more proof, 
thus we believe it more.

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Thus we get more proof, 
thus we believe it more.

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It's a never ending cycle, 
until this particular belief,

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quite literally is the foundation

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of the life that we are living.

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When it comes to core beliefs

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these are thoughts that 
we have thought so often,

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that our subconscious mind 
has now taken them over.

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Because they're a part of 
the subconscious mind

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we are no longer 
aware of them.

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They become a part 
of the human shadow.

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That's why finding core beliefs

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and changing core beliefs,

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is a big part of shadow work.

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If you want to understand more 
about what shadow work is,

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you can watch my video 
on YouTube titled:

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What Is Shadow Work?

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That being said, we can
become aware of,

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and find our core beliefs.

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In order to find your core beliefs,

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what you have to 
do is to be aware

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of the things that 
are upsetting you,

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or aware of the fact 
that you are upset.

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If you find yourself becoming upset,

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what has happen is the 
universe has set-you-up

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to find something out

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that was buried in the subconscious.

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When we find ourselves getting upset

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we have the prime opportunity 
to find our core beliefs.

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So when you find 
yourself getting upset,

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you have to notice what 
it is that is upsetting you,

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then you have to sit down and 
deliberately begin the process

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of actively and consciously 
questioning your upsetness

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in a very specific way to 
whittle these thoughts down,

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to the deepest core thought

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which is causing the 
pain in your life.

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We do this with two 
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The two questions that we ask are:

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1. If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?

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2. What does that mean to 
me, or mean about me?

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So let's say that you notice 
that you become upset

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because you get home

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and the house is a total 
and complete mess.

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You begin with the most surface 
thought that you can find,

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which is in this case 
would be the judgement"

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"The house is a mess."

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I've written down an example

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of a core belief finding session here

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that I'm going to read to you,

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that's the result of this, 
"the house is a mess" scenario.

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So I'll read it for you now.

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Let's say that we find 
that the house is a mess,

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and that's your statement,
"The house is a mess."

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what you would ask 
is the question:

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"If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean 
to me or mean about me?"

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The answer might be,

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"I live in a pigsty."

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OK, I live in a pigsty.

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"If that's 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that 
mean to me, or about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"It means no one 
respects my house."

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OK, no one respects my house.

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"If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that 
mean, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be: 
"No one cares how I feel."

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If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?

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"And/or what does that mean 
to me, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"It's inevitable that I'm 
going to be hurt by people."

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"If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean 
to me, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"Suffering is the purpose of life."

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"If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean 
to me, or mean about me?"

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"Life is a punishment."

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"If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean 
to me, or mean about me?"

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Answer:

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"It means I'm bad."

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"If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean 
to me, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"I'll be unloved."

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"If that is 100% true, 
why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean 
to me or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"I'm all alone."

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"I'm all alone"

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is the core belief in 
this particular scenario.

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What's ironic is that,

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the person who came 
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and saw that their 
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in fact immediately had that 
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"I'm alone."

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So, the very bottom core belief

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correlates the very first statement;

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"If house is a mess, then I'm alone."

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When you're in the process 
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you want to be very 
careful about justifications.

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Justifications are a kind of cop-out

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to not have to see your shadow.

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So an example of a justification 
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"The house is messy, 
why would that be so bad?"

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"Because it makes me feel 
like people don't care."

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"Why would that be so bad?"

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"Well because people should care

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otherwise I can't feel good."

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That is a cop-out, that's a justification.

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When the real answer 
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"Well if they don't care 
about me, I'm all alone."

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So we have the tendency,

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especially when we're right on 
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to at the very last second,

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veer in the direction 
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the previous thought was true,

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instead of looking at 
why it really scares us.

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Why it really is so bad.

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You can apply this 
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to any thought or any 
judgement which you can posses,

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and believe me, you 
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at what some of your 
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Now it's important to understand,

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that with some judgments, when
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you might find multiple core beliefs.

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That was the case with 
this previous exercise.

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You may have a difficult time
identifying with a core belief.

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Because it's so subconscious,
when you see it consciously,

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it might seem absolutely ridiculous.

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Or you might see 
that particular belief,

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and feel like you're going 
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because it is so incredibly impactful

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and so incredibly true at such 
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For some of these 
core belief exercises,

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you will find multiple core beliefs.

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Definitive statements 
about your life or yourself.

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What you want to do is to 
work on all of these beliefs,

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not just the bottom 
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the one that makes 
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"that's the one, I can stop right there."

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"Because if I question it 
further, it just goes in a loop."

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For example, in the above 
scenario which I gave you,

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the thought: "No one cares how I feel,"

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needs to be questioned.

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So does the thought: "I am bad."

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Once we find the core belief 
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or the multiple beliefs that 
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we can begin to question them.

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My favorite process 
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was actually invented by Byron Katie.

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It's a process called The Work.

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So I highly suggest you look 
into that particular process

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and apply those to your core beliefs.

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Then, you can go about 
changing those beliefs.

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To learn how to change a belief,

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you can look at my 
YouTube video titled:

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How to Change a Belief

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We need to begin consciously 
challenging these beliefs

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and looking for proof 
that they are not true.

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We also need to use 
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to determine what we 
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So once you find your 
core belief, ask yourself:

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"What would I rather believe?"

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And begin looking for proof

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that this new belief is true.

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Read and watch and 
seek out any material

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that supports this new belief.

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As you go about your 
daily life, ask yourself:

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"What would I do 
right now if I believed

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this new belief with all my heart?"

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and do those things.

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With enough focus, 
you will manifest

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more proof that 
the new belief is true,

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and the belief will become 
stronger and stronger,

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until it has completely 
replaced the old core belief.

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Most of us struggle 
for years against

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beliefs that are deeply 
rooted within our being.

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We do everything we can 
to push against them,

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to try to succeed despite them,

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when all we really 
need to do is to sit down,

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to become conscious of 
these particular core beliefs,

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to question the way we see them,

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and to change them.

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Yes it's a bit time consuming,
but look at it this way;

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you could spend months 
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doing everything you can

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to try to pull in the opposite 
direction of these beliefs,

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and do so moderately successfully,

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if successfully at all,

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because it's like trying 
to hang to an anchor

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at the same time as trying 
to paddle down a stream.

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Or, what you can do,

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is you can take an hour 
or two out of your time,

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focus directly at the 
particular core belief,

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and replace it,

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so that it's actually 
no longer creating

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a challenge for you in your life.

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Have a good week.

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