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How to Find a Core Belief

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Hello there.

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We are creators.

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We are extensions of what [br]we call God or Source.

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As such, we are creating [br]our collective reality

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as well as our lives

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with the thoughts that [br]we think every single day.

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Even if you don't believe

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that your thoughts literally weave

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the fabric of our reality,

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it's undeniable that the [br]thoughts that we think,

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dictate the decisions we make,

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and that the decisions [br]that we make,

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plot the course of our entire lives.

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So it's easy to see

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how living a happy life [br]really does depend

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upon finding these [br]thoughts and beliefs

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that are painful, [br]and changing them.

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There are beliefs that we [br]could call surface beliefs.

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Beliefs like, black people are angry,

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kids should clean their rooms,

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I have to keep my job,

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women are flaky.

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These kinds of thoughts [br]are like branches of a tree.

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Each one of them is the by-product

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of a deeper core belief.

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The core belief is like [br]the root of a tree.

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Core beliefs are the building blocks

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of the life that we're living.

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They're the source from [br]which everything grows,

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and most importantly,

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they are the very source [br]of how we see ourselves,

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and how we see the [br]universe we live in.

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They're both the root of the joy

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and the root of the [br]suffering in our lives.

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Some examples of core beliefs are:

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"I am unlovable."

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"I will be hurt if I get [br]close to someone."

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Or, "There is no point to life."

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Core beliefs can be [br]positive or negative,

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but for the sake of this episode,

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I'm going to focus on [br]negatives core beliefs

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because they're the ones [br]that are not working for us.

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Core beliefs are mostly subconscious.

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They are the result of [br]impactful experiences

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that we had in our childhoods.

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Most often core [br]beliefs are the result

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of repeated experiences [br]that are similar.

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When we experience those things,

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and we get those core beliefs [br]as a result of those experiences,

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they become inflexible [br]and deeply, deeply rooted.

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As a result, what we [br]tend to do is to ignore

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anything that invalidates those beliefs,

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while paying attention to [br]anything that validates them.

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Thus we get more proof, [br]thus we believe it more.

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Thus we get more proof, [br]thus we believe it more.

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It's a never ending cycle, [br]until this particular belief,

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quite literally is the foundation

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of the life that we are living.

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When it comes to core beliefs

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these are thoughts that [br]we have thought so often,

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that our subconscious mind [br]has now taken them over.

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Because they're a part of [br]the subconscious mind

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we are no longer [br]aware of them.

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They become a part [br]of the human shadow.

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That's why finding core beliefs

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and changing core beliefs,

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is a big part of shadow work.

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If you want to understand more [br]about what shadow work is,

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you can watch my video [br]on YouTube titled:

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What Is Shadow Work?

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That being said, we can[br]become aware of,

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and find our core beliefs.

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In order to find your core beliefs,

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what you have to [br]do is to be aware

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of the things that [br]are upsetting you,

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or aware of the fact [br]that you are upset.

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If you find yourself becoming upset,

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what has happen is the [br]universe has set-you-up

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to find something out

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that was buried in the subconscious.

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When we find ourselves getting upset

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we have the prime opportunity [br]to find our core beliefs.

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So when you find [br]yourself getting upset,

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you have to notice what [br]it is that is upsetting you,

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then you have to sit down and [br]deliberately begin the process

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of actively and consciously [br]questioning your upsetness

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in a very specific way to [br]whittle these thoughts down,

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to the deepest core thought

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which is causing the [br]pain in your life.

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We do this with two [br]specific questions.

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The two questions that we ask are:

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1. If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?

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2. What does that mean to [br]me, or mean about me?

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So let's say that you notice [br]that you become upset

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because you get home

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and the house is a total [br]and complete mess.

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You begin with the most surface [br]thought that you can find,

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which is in this case [br]would be the judgement"

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"The house is a mess."

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I've written down an example

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of a core belief finding session here

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that I'm going to read to you,

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that's the result of this, [br]"the house is a mess" scenario.

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So I'll read it for you now.

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Let's say that we find [br]that the house is a mess,

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and that's your statement,[br]"The house is a mess."

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what you would ask [br]is the question:

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"If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean [br]to me or mean about me?"

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The answer might be,

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"I live in a pigsty."

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OK, I live in a pigsty.

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"If that's 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that [br]mean to me, or about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"It means no one [br]respects my house."

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OK, no one respects my house.

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"If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that [br]mean, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be: [br]"No one cares how I feel."

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If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?

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"And/or what does that mean [br]to me, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"It's inevitable that I'm [br]going to be hurt by people."

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"If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean [br]to me, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"Suffering is the purpose of life."

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"If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean [br]to me, or mean about me?"

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"Life is a punishment."

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"If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean [br]to me, or mean about me?"

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Answer:

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"It means I'm bad."

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"If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean [br]to me, or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"I'll be unloved."

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"If that is 100% true, [br]why is that so bad?"

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"And/or what does that mean [br]to me or mean about me?"

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The answer might be:

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"I'm all alone."

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"I'm all alone"

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is the core belief in [br]this particular scenario.

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What's ironic is that,

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the person who came [br]home in this scenario,

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and saw that their [br]house was a mess,

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in fact immediately had that [br]belief triggered:

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"I'm alone."

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So, the very bottom core belief

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correlates the very first statement;

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"If house is a mess, then I'm alone."

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When you're in the process [br]of finding a core belief,

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you want to be very [br]careful about justifications.

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Justifications are a kind of cop-out

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to not have to see your shadow.

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So an example of a justification [br]might be something like:

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"The house is messy, [br]why would that be so bad?"

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"Because it makes me feel [br]like people don't care."

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"Why would that be so bad?"

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"Well because people should care

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otherwise I can't feel good."

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That is a cop-out, that's a justification.

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When the real answer [br]might be something like:

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"Well if they don't care [br]about me, I'm all alone."

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So we have the tendency,

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especially when we're right on [br]top of the deepest core belief,

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to at the very last second,

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veer in the direction [br]of justifying why

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the previous thought was true,

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instead of looking at [br]why it really scares us.

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Why it really is so bad.

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You can apply this [br]process of questioning

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to any thought or any [br]judgement which you can posses,

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and believe me, you [br]will be blown away

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at what some of your [br]core beliefs are.

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Now it's important to understand,

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that with some judgments, when[br]you start this core belief process,

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you might find multiple core beliefs.

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That was the case with [br]this previous exercise.

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You may have a difficult time[br]identifying with a core belief.

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Because it's so subconscious,[br]when you see it consciously,

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it might seem absolutely ridiculous.

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Or you might see [br]that particular belief,

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and feel like you're going [br]to fall to your knees,

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because it is so incredibly impactful

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and so incredibly true at such [br]a basic level of your being.

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For some of these [br]core belief exercises,

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you will find multiple core beliefs.

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Definitive statements [br]about your life or yourself.

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What you want to do is to [br]work on all of these beliefs,

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not just the bottom [br]or the core one.

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the one that makes [br]you feel like:

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"that's the one, I can stop right there."

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"Because if I question it [br]further, it just goes in a loop."

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For example, in the above [br]scenario which I gave you,

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the thought: "No one cares how I feel,"

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needs to be questioned.

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So does the thought: "I am bad."

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Once we find the core belief [br]which is causing our upset

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or the multiple beliefs that [br]are lending to our upset,

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we can begin to question them.

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My favorite process [br]for questioning beliefs

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was actually invented by Byron Katie.

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It's a process called The Work.

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So I highly suggest you look [br]into that particular process

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and apply those to your core beliefs.

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Then, you can go about [br]changing those beliefs.

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To learn how to change a belief,

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you can look at my [br]YouTube video titled:

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How to Change a Belief

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We need to begin consciously [br]challenging these beliefs

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and looking for proof [br]that they are not true.

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We also need to use [br]these core beliefs

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to determine what we [br]would rather believe.

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So once you find your [br]core belief, ask yourself:

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"What would I rather believe?"

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And begin looking for proof

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that this new belief is true.

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Read and watch and [br]seek out any material

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that supports this new belief.

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As you go about your [br]daily life, ask yourself:

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"What would I do [br]right now if I believed

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this new belief with all my heart?"

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and do those things.

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With enough focus, [br]you will manifest

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more proof that [br]the new belief is true,

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and the belief will become [br]stronger and stronger,

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until it has completely [br]replaced the old core belief.

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Most of us struggle [br]for years against

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beliefs that are deeply [br]rooted within our being.

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We do everything we can [br]to push against them,

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to try to succeed despite them,

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when all we really [br]need to do is to sit down,

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to become conscious of [br]these particular core beliefs,

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to question the way we see them,

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and to change them.

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Yes it's a bit time consuming,[br]but look at it this way;

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you could spend months [br]or years of your life,

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doing everything you can

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to try to pull in the opposite [br]direction of these beliefs,

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and do so moderately successfully,

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if successfully at all,

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because it's like trying [br]to hang to an anchor

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at the same time as trying [br]to paddle down a stream.

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Or, what you can do,

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is you can take an hour [br]or two out of your time,

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focus directly at the [br]particular core belief,

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and replace it,

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so that it's actually [br]no longer creating

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a challenge for you in your life.

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Have a good week.

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