Race is not an issue for me,
not at all.
whenever I met him, since the end of high school,
middle of high school I been in interracial relationships,
so when it came to him, I've dealt with it for a long time
now.
So it's something that I don't see as a problem anymore.
(male speaking) My family, they don't see color so...
I think, like, she was well accepted.
It wasn't a big deal, it was kinda like "hey, this is Lacey."
It wasn't like "Oh lord, he done brought a white girl here."
[giggles]
My grandmother loves her, my mom loves her,
All my family accept the whole interracial deal.
I don't have any problems within the family
or pressure or anything about it.
My family, when it comes to interracial relationships,
at first, I think I was more nervous about
coming out to them about it.
I heard so many stories from other friends.
A few friends that were interested in black guys and um,
some stories that had happened to them,
like, their parents would kick them out the house,
and, you know, they said "if you ever like,
bring him home again, I'll disown you."
(Lacey) and, I felt that, from everybody else's
bad experience, I would be disappointing if I came
and told them that I was into a black guy.
I just, it was something I prayed about.
I was at church a lot in high school.
I never really was into the clubs,
and the whole night life scenes.
So, I spent a lot of time before coming out to them, I guess,
talking to some mentors of mine, some friends
at church.
Just a lot of praying, and they showed me in
the bible where it said, you know, it never says
when a man chooses a white wife, or a black wife, or an Asian wife,
you know, its just a wife.
God never specified a color.
It's just, when you choose, when a man finds a woman.
So I think the more I talk to people and surrounded myself
with positive people, I gained the courage
to tell them, and when I told them,
it went well.
(male) She's actually learning how to cook soul food right now.
[both laugh]
Tell them what you were doing in the kitchen this Sunday.
My cornbread dressing for Thanksgiving.
Yeah.
But, my grandmother was willing to teach her some stuff.
So she can carry on the...
All guys like grandmother's cooking, nobody can cook like a grandma.
and it's been said that, you know, white people can't cook like
black people.
They put soul in their food.
[chuckles]
I still haven't figured out what the soul part is all about,
but... I'm willing to learn from his grandmother
how to cook the food that he likes, to make him happy
and to keep him happy, so.
I'll be in the kitchen with grandma learning how to make pig feet
and all kinds of stuff I never grew up eating.
(Lacey) As far as the child's concerned, being an interracial child,
I do always have concerns about it.
I think about it a lot.
I think it'll be something whenever she does get to the age,
where she starts understanding, and seeing the world.
you know, the world is a cruel place these days,
and especially when it comes to a topic like this.
(male) I'll do my best- we'll do our best-
as parents to make sure we put her in the right
environment.
but, even if we put our daughter in the right environment,
it doesn't mean anything can't happen.
But, I do worry, just thinking about-
'cause there's all possibilities, like things that could go wrong.
Some can be sad, and taken the wrong way or
just... anything.
(lacey) I think as parents we're gonna do our best
to explain to her, what she has to look
forward to and expect, and kinda prepare her
the best that we can for it.
and just as long as she knows that she can come
to us if anyone has hurt her, or said anything.
then we go from there.
We'll worry, but I mean what parents don't worry?
You know, it's just something that we're gonna have to
prepare her for.
make her strong and support her.
And we'll get through it.