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Race is not an issue 
for me,

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not at all.

3
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whenever I met him, 
since the end of high school,

4
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middle of high school I 
been in interracial relationships,

5
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so when it came to him, 
I've dealt with it for a long time

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now.

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So it's something that I don't see 
as a problem anymore.

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(male speaking) My family, 
they don't see color so...

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I think, like, she was well 
accepted.

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It wasn't a big deal, 
it was kinda like "hey, this is Lacey."

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It wasn't like "Oh lord, he done 
brought a white girl here."

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[giggles]

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My grandmother loves her, 
my mom loves her,

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All my family accept 
the whole interracial deal.

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I don't have any problems 
within the family

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or pressure or anything 
about it.

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My family, when it comes to 
interracial relationships,

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at first, I think I was
more nervous about

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coming out to them about 
it.

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I heard so many stories 
from other friends.

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A few friends that were interested 
in black guys and um,

22
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some stories that had happened
to them,

23
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like, their parents would 
kick them out the house,

24
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and, you know, 
they said "if you ever like,

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bring him home again, 
I'll disown you."

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(Lacey) and, I felt that,
from everybody else's

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bad experience, I would 
be disappointing if I came

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and told them that I was
into a black guy.

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I just, it was something I
prayed about.

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I was at church a lot in 
high school.

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I never really was into
the clubs,

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and the whole night life scenes.

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So, I spent a lot of time before 
coming out to them, I guess,

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talking to some mentors
of mine, some friends

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at church.

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Just a lot of praying, 
and they showed me in

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the bible where it said, 
you know, it never says

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when a man chooses a white wife, 
or a black wife, or an Asian wife,

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you know, its just a wife. 


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God never specified a color.

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It's just, when you choose, when 
a man finds a woman.

42
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So I think the more I talk 
to people and surrounded myself

43
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with positive people, 
I gained the courage

44
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to tell them, 
and when I told them,

45
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it went well.

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(male) She's actually learning
how to cook soul food right now.

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[both laugh]

48
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Tell them what you were doing
in the kitchen this Sunday.

49
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My cornbread dressing for 
Thanksgiving.

50
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Yeah.

51
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But, my grandmother was 
willing to teach her some stuff.

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So she can carry on the...

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All guys like grandmother's cooking, 
nobody can cook like a grandma.

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and it's been said that, you know, 
white people can't cook like

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black people.

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They put soul in their food.

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[chuckles]

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I still haven't figured out 
what the soul part is all about,

59
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but... I'm willing to learn 
from his grandmother

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how to cook the food 
that he likes, to make him happy


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and to keep him happy, so.

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I'll be in the kitchen with grandma 
learning how to make pig feet

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and all kinds of stuff
I never grew up eating.

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(Lacey) As far as the child's
concerned, being an interracial child,

65
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I do always have concerns about 
it.

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I think about it a lot.

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I think it'll be something 
whenever she does get to the age,

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where she starts understanding, 
and seeing the world.

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you know, the world is a 
cruel place these days,

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and especially when it comes 
to a topic like this.

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(male) I'll do my best-
we'll do our best-

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as parents to make sure 
we put her in the right

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environment.

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but, even if we put our daughter 
in the right environment,

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it doesn't mean anything 
can't happen.

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But, I do worry, 
just thinking about-

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'cause there's all possibilities, like 
things that could go wrong.

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Some can be sad, 
and taken the wrong way or

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just... anything.

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(lacey) I think as parents 
we're gonna do our best

81
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to explain to her, 
what she has to look

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forward to and expect, 
and kinda prepare her

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the best that we can 
for it.

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and just as long as she 
knows that she can come

85
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to us if anyone has hurt her, 
or said anything.

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then we go from there.

87
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We'll worry, but I mean
what parents don't worry?

88
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You know, it's just something
that we're gonna have to

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prepare her for.

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make her strong
and support her. 


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And we'll get through it.