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Your body language may shape who you are

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    So I want to start by offering you
    a free no-tech life hack,
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    and all it requires of you is this:
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    that you change your posture
    for two minutes.
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    But before I give it away,
    I want to ask you to right now
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    do a little audit of your body
    and what you're doing with your body.
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    So how many of you are
    sort of making yourselves smaller?
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    Maybe you're hunching, crossing your legs,
    maybe wrapping your ankles.
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    Sometimes we hold onto our arms like this.
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    Sometimes we spread out. (Laughter)
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    I see you.
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    So I want you to pay attention
    to what you're doing right now.
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    We're going to come back
    to that in a few minutes,
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    and I'm hoping that if you learn
    to tweak this a little bit,
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    it could significantly change
    the way your life unfolds.
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    So, we're really fascinated
    with body language,
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    and we're particularly interested
    in other people's body language.
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    You know, we're interested in,
    like, you know — (Laughter) —
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    an awkward interaction, or a smile,
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    or a contemptuous glance,
    or maybe a very awkward wink,
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    or maybe even something like a handshake.
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    Narrator: Here they are
    arriving at Number 10.
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    This lucky policeman gets to shake hands
    with the President of the United States.
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    Here comes the Prime Minister --
    No. (Laughter) (Applause)
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    (Laughter) (Applause)
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    Amy Cuddy: So a handshake,
    or the lack of a handshake,
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    can have us talking for weeks
    and weeks and weeks.
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    Even the BBC and The New York Times.
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    So obviously when we think
    about nonverbal behavior,
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    or body language -- but we call it
    nonverbals as social scientists --
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    it's language, so we think
    about communication.
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    When we think about communication,
    we think about interactions.
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    So what is your body language
    communicating to me?
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    What's mine communicating to you?
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    And there's a lot of reason to believe
    that this is a valid way to look at this.
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    So social scientists
    have spent a lot of time
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    looking at the effects
    of our body language,
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    or other people's body language,
    on judgments.
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    And we make sweeping judgments
    and inferences from body language.
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    And those judgments can predict
    really meaningful life outcomes
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    like who we hire or promote,
    who we ask out on a date.
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    For example, Nalini Ambady,
    a researcher at Tufts University,
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    shows that when people watch
    30-second soundless clips
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    of real physician-patient interactions,
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    their judgments
    of the physician's niceness
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    predict whether or not
    that physician will be sued.
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    So it doesn't have to do so much
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    with whether or not that physician
    was incompetent,
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    but do we like that person
    and how they interacted?
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    Even more dramatic,
    Alex Todorov at Princeton
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    has shown us that judgments
    of political candidates' faces
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    in just one second predict 70 percent
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    of U.S. Senate and gubernatorial
    race outcomes,
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    and even, let's go digital,
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    emoticons used well in online negotiations
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    can lead you to claim more value
    from that negotiation.
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    If you use them poorly, bad idea. Right?
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    So when we think of nonverbals,
    we think of how we judge others,
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    how they judge us
    and what the outcomes are.
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    We tend to forget, though,
    the other audience
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    that's influenced by our nonverbals,
    and that's ourselves.
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    We are also influenced by our nonverbals,
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    our thoughts and our feelings
    and our physiology.
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    So what nonverbals am I talking about?
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    I'm a social psychologist.
    I study prejudice,
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    and I teach at a competitive
    business school,
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    so it was inevitable that I would become
    interested in power dynamics.
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    I became especially interested
    in nonverbal expressions
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    of power and dominance.
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    And what are nonverbal expressions
    of power and dominance?
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    Well, this is what they are.
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    So in the animal kingdom,
    they are about expanding.
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    So you make yourself big, you stretch out,
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    you take up space,
    you're basically opening up.
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    It's about opening up.
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    And this is true
    across the animal kingdom.
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    It's not just limited to primates.
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    And humans do the same thing. (Laughter)
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    So they do this both when they have
    power sort of chronically,
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    and also when they're feeling
    powerful in the moment.
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    And this one is especially interesting
    because it really shows us
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    how universal and old these
    expressions of power are.
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    This expression, which is known as pride,
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    Jessica Tracy has studied.
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    She shows that people
    who are born with sight
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    and people who are congenitally
    blind do this
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    when they win at a physical competition.
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    So when they cross
    the finish line and they've won,
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    it doesn't matter if they've never
    seen anyone do it.
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    They do this.
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    So the arms up in the V,
    the chin is slightly lifted.
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    What do we do when we feel powerless?
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    We do exactly the opposite.
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    We close up.
    We wrap ourselves up.
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    We make ourselves small.
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    We don't want to bump
    into the person next to us.
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    So again, both animals and humans
    do the same thing.
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    And this is what happens
    when you put together high and low power.
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    So what we tend to
    do when it comes to power
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    is that we complement
    the other's nonverbals.
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    So if someone is being
    really powerful with us,
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    we tend to make ourselves smaller.
    We don't mirror them.
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    We do the opposite of them.
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    So I'm watching this behavior
    in the classroom,
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    and what do I notice?
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    I notice that MBA students really exhibit
    the full range of power nonverbals.
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    So you have people
    who are like caricatures of alphas,
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    really coming into the room, they get
    right into the middle of the room
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    before class even starts,
    like they really want to occupy space.
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    When they sit down,
    they're sort of spread out.
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    They raise their hands like this.
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    You have other people
    who are virtually collapsing
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    when they come in.
    As soon they come in, you see it.
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    You see it on their faces
    and their bodies,
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    and they sit in their chair
    and they make themselves tiny,
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    and they go like this
    when they raise their hand.
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    I notice a couple of things about this.
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    One, you're not going to be surprised.
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    It seems to be related to gender.
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    So women are much more likely
    to do this kind of thing than men.
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    Women feel chronically
    less powerful than men,
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    so this is not surprising.
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    But the other thing I noticed
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    is that it also seemed
    to be related to the extent
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    to which the students were participating,
    and how well they were participating.
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    And this is really important
    in the MBA classroom,
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    because participation
    counts for half the grade.
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    So business schools have been struggling
    with this gender grade gap.
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    You get these equally qualified
    women and men coming in
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    and then you get
    these differences in grades,
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    and it seems to be partly
    attributable to participation.
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    So I started to wonder, you know, okay,
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    so you have these people coming in
    like this, and they're participating.
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    Is it possible that we could
    get people to fake it
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    and would it lead them
    to participate more?
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    So my main collaborator
    Dana Carney, who's at Berkeley,
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    and I really wanted to know,
    can you fake it till you make it?
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    Like, can you do this
    just for a little while
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    and actually experience
    a behavioral outcome
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    that makes you seem more powerful?
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    So we know that our nonverbals
    govern how other people
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    think and feel about us.
    There's a lot of evidence.
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    But our question really was,
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    do our nonverbals govern
    how we think and feel about ourselves?
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    There's some evidence that they do.
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    So, for example, we smile
    when we feel happy,
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    but also, when we're forced to smile
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    by holding a pen in our teeth
    like this, it makes us feel happy.
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    So it goes both ways.
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    When it comes to power,
    it also goes both ways.
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    So when you feel powerful,
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    you're more likely to do this,
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    but it's also possible
    that when you pretend to be powerful,
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    you are more likely
    to actually feel powerful.
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    So the second question
    really was, you know,
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    so we know that our minds
    change our bodies,
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    but is it also true
    that our bodies change our minds?
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    And when I say minds,
    in the case of the powerful,
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    what am I talking about?
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    So I'm talking about thoughts and feelings
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    and the sort of physiological things
    that make up our thoughts and feelings,
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    and in my case, that's hormones.
    I look at hormones.
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    So what do the minds of the powerful
    versus the powerless look like?
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    So powerful people tend to be,
    not surprisingly,
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    more assertive and more confident,
    more optimistic.
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    They actually feel they're going to win
    even at games of chance.
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    They also tend to be able
    to think more abstractly.
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    So there are a lot of differences.
    They take more risks.
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    There are a lot of differences
    between powerful and powerless people.
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    Physiologically,
    there also are differences
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    on two key hormones: testosterone,
    which is the dominance hormone,
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    and cortisol, which is the stress hormone.
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    So what we find is that high-power
    alpha males in primate hierarchies
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    have high testosterone and low cortisol,
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    and powerful and effective leaders
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    also have high testosterone
    and low cortisol.
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    So what does that mean?
    When you think about power,
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    people tended to think
    only about testosterone,
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    because that was about dominance.
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    But really, power is also about
    how you react to stress.
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    So do you want the high-power
    leader that's dominant,
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    high on testosterone,
    but really stress reactive?
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    Probably not, right?
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    You want the person who's powerful
    and assertive and dominant,
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    but not very stress reactive,
    the person who's laid back.
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    So we know that in primate hierarchies,
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    if an alpha needs to take over,
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    if an individual needs to take over
    an alpha role sort of suddenly,
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    within a few days,
    that individual's testosterone has gone up
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    significantly and his cortisol
    has dropped significantly.
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    So we have this evidence,
    both that the body can shape
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    the mind, at least at the facial level,
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    and also that role changes
    can shape the mind.
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    So what happens, okay,
    you take a role change,
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    what happens if you do that
    at a really minimal level,
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    like this tiny manipulation,
    this tiny intervention?
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    "For two minutes," you say,
    "I want you to stand like this,
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    and it's going to make you feel
    more powerful."
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    So this is what we did.
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    We decided to bring people into the lab
    and run a little experiment,
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    and these people adopted, for two minutes,
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    either high-power poses
    or low-power poses,
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    and I'm just going to show
    you five of the poses,
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    although they took on only two.
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    So here's one.
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    A couple more.
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    This one has been dubbed
    the "Wonder Woman" by the media.
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    Here are a couple more.
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    So you can be standing
    or you can be sitting.
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    And here are the low-power poses.
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    So you're folding up,
    you're making yourself small.
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    This one is very low-power.
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    When you're touching your neck,
    you're really protecting yourself.
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    So this is what happens.
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    They come in, they spit into a vial,
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    for two minutes, we say,
    "You need to do this or this."
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    They don't look at pictures of the poses.
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    We don't want to prime them
    with a concept of power.
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    We want them to be feeling power.
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    So two minutes they do this.
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    We then ask them, "How powerful
    do you feel?" on a series of items,
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    and then we give them
    an opportunity to gamble,
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    and then we take another saliva sample.
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    That's it. That's the whole experiment.
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    So this is what we find.
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    Risk tolerance, which is the gambling,
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    we find that when you are
    in the high-power pose condition,
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    86 percent of you will gamble.
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    When you're in the low-power
    pose condition,
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    only 60 percent, and that's
    a whopping significant difference.
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    Here's what we find on testosterone.
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    From their baseline when they come in,
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    high-power people experience
    about a 20-percent increase,
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    and low-power people experience
    about a 10-percent decrease.
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    So again, two minutes,
    and you get these changes.
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    Here's what you get on cortisol.
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    High-power people experience
    about a 25-percent decrease,
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    and the low-power people experience
    about a 15-percent increase.
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    So two minutes lead
    to these hormonal changes
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    that configure your brain
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    to basically be either assertive,
    confident and comfortable,
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    or really stress-reactive,
    and feeling sort of shut down.
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    And we've all had the feeling, right?
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    So it seems that our nonverbals do govern
    how we think and feel about ourselves,
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    so it's not just others,
    but it's also ourselves.
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    Also, our bodies change our minds.
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    But the next question, of course,
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    is, can power posing for a few minutes
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    really change your life
    in meaningful ways?
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    This is in the lab, it's this little task,
    it's just a couple of minutes.
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    Where can you actually apply this?
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    Which we cared about, of course.
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    And so we think where you want to use this
    is evaluative situations,
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    like social threat situations.
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    Where are you being evaluated,
    either by your friends?
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    For teenagers,
    it's at the lunchroom table.
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    For some people it's speaking
    at a school board meeting.
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    It might be giving a pitch
    or giving a talk like this
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    or doing a job interview.
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    We decided that the one
    that most people could relate to
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    because most people had been through,
    was the job interview.
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    So we published these findings,
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    and the media are all over it,
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    and they say, Okay, so this is what you do
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    when you go in
    for the job interview, right?
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    (Laughter)
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    You know, so we were of course
    horrified, and said,
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    Oh my God, no,
    that's not what we meant at all.
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    For numerous reasons, no, don't do that.
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    Again, this is not about you
    talking to other people.
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    It's you talking to yourself.
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    What do you do before you go
    into a job interview? You do this.
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    You're sitting down.
    You're looking at your iPhone --
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    or your Android, not trying
    to leave anyone out.
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    You're looking at your notes,
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    you're hunching up, making yourself small,
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    when really what you should
    be doing maybe is this,
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    like, in the bathroom, right?
    Do that. Find two minutes.
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    So that's what we want to test. Okay?
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    So we bring people into a lab,
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    and they do either high-
    or low-power poses again,
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    they go through
    a very stressful job interview.
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    It's five minutes long.
    They are being recorded.
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    They're being judged also,
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    and the judges are trained
    to give no nonverbal feedback,
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    so they look like this.
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    Imagine this is the person
    interviewing you.
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    So for five minutes, nothing,
    and this is worse than being heckled.
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    People hate this.
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    It's what Marianne LaFrance calls
    "standing in social quicksand."
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    So this really spikes your cortisol.
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    So this is the job interview
    we put them through,
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    because we really wanted
    to see what happened.
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    We then have these coders look
    at these tapes, four of them.
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    They're blind to the hypothesis.
    They're blind to the conditions.
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    They have no idea
    who's been posing in what pose,
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    and they end up looking
    at these sets of tapes,
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    and they say,
    "We want to hire these people,"
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    all the high-power posers.
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    "We don't want to hire these people.
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    We also evaluate these people
    much more positively overall."
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    But what's driving it?
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    It's not about the content of the speech.
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    It's about the presence
    that they're bringing to the speech.
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    Because we rate them
    on all these variables
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    related to competence,
    like, how well-structured is the speech?
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    How good is it?
    What are their qualifications?
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    No effect on those things.
    This is what's affected.
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    These kinds of things.
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    People are bringing
    their true selves, basically.
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    They're bringing themselves.
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    They bring their ideas, but as themselves,
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    with no, you know, residue over them.
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    So this is what's driving the effect,
    or mediating the effect.
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    So when I tell people about this,
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    that our bodies change our minds
    and our minds can change our behavior,
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    and our behavior can change
    our outcomes, they say to me,
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    "It feels fake." Right?
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    So I said, fake it till you make it.
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    It's not me.
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    I don't want to get there
    and then still feel like a fraud.
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    I don't want to feel like an impostor.
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    I don't want to get there only to feel
    like I'm not supposed to be here.
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    And that really resonated with me,
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    because I want to tell you
    a little story about being an impostor
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    and feeling like
    I'm not supposed to be here.
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    When I was 19, I was
    in a really bad car accident.
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    I was thrown out of a car,
    rolled several times.
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    I was thrown from the car.
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    And I woke up in a head injury rehab ward,
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    and I had been withdrawn from college,
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    and I learned that my IQ had dropped
    by two standard deviations,
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    which was very traumatic.
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    I knew my IQ because
    I had identified with being smart,
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    and I had been called gifted as a child.
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    So I'm taken out of college,
    I keep trying to go back.
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    They say, "You're not going
    to finish college.
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    Just, you know, there are other
    things for you to do,
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    but that's not going to work out for you."
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    So I really struggled
    with this, and I have to say,
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    having your identity taken
    from you, your core identity,
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    and for me it was being smart,
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    having that taken from you,
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    there's nothing that leaves you feeling
    more powerless than that.
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    So I felt entirely powerless.
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    I worked and worked, and I got lucky,
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    and worked, and got lucky, and worked.
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    Eventually I graduated from college.
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    It took me four years
    longer than my peers,
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    and I convinced someone,
    my angel advisor, Susan Fiske,
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    to take me on,
    and so I ended up at Princeton,
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    and I was like,
    I am not supposed to be here.
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    I am an impostor.
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    And the night before my first-year talk,
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    and the first-year talk at Princeton
    is a 20-minute talk to 20 people.
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    That's it.
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    I was so afraid of being
    found out the next day
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    that I called her
    and said, "I'm quitting."
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    She was like, "You are not quitting,
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    because I took a gamble
    on you, and you're staying.
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    You're going to stay, and this is
    what you're going to do.
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    You are going to fake it.
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    You're going to do every talk
    that you ever get asked to do.
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    You're just going to do it
    and do it and do it,
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    even if you're terrified
    and just paralyzed
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    and having an out-of-body experience,
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    until you have this moment where you say,
    'Oh my gosh, I'm doing it.
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    Like, I have become this.
    I am actually doing this.'"
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    So that's what I did.
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    Five years in grad school,
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    a few years, you know,
    I'm at Northwestern,
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    I moved to Harvard, I'm at Harvard,
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    I'm not really thinking about it anymore,
    but for a long time I had been thinking,
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    "Not supposed to be here."
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    So at the end of my first year at Harvard,
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    a student who had not talked
    in class the entire semester,
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    who I had said, "Look, you've gotta
    participate or else you're going to fail,"
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    came into my office.
    I really didn't know her at all.
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    She came in totally defeated,
    and she said,
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    "I'm not supposed to be here."
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    And that was the moment for me.
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    Because two things happened.
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    One was that I realized,
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    oh my gosh,
    I don't feel like that anymore.
  • 18:28 - 18:31
    I don't feel that anymore,
    but she does, and I get that feeling.
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    And the second was,
    she is supposed to be here!
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    Like, she can fake it, she can become it.
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    So I was like, "Yes, you are!
    You are supposed to be here!
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    And tomorrow you're going to fake it,
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    you're going to make yourself
    powerful, and, you know --
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    (Applause)
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    And you're going to go
    into the classroom,
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    and you are going to give
    the best comment ever."
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    You know? And she gave
    the best comment ever,
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    and people turned around and were like,
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    oh my God, I didn't even notice her
    sitting there. (Laughter)
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    She comes back to me months later,
  • 19:05 - 19:08
    and I realized that she had not just
    faked it till she made it,
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    she had actually faked it
    till she became it.
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    So she had changed.
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    And so I want to say to you,
    don't fake it till you make it.
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    Fake it till you become it.
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    Do it enough until you actually
    become it and internalize.
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    The last thing I'm going
    to leave you with is this.
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    Tiny tweaks can lead to big changes.
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    So, this is two minutes.
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    Two minutes, two minutes, two minutes.
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    Before you go into the next stressful
    evaluative situation,
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    for two minutes, try doing this,
    in the elevator,
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    in a bathroom stall, at your desk
    behind closed doors.
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    That's what you want to do.
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    Configure your brain
    to cope the best in that situation.
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    Get your testosterone up.
    Get your cortisol down.
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    Don't leave that situation feeling
    like, oh, I didn't show them who I am.
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    Leave that situation feeling like,
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    I really feel like I got to say
    who I am and show who I am.
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    So I want to ask you first, you know,
    both to try power posing,
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    and also I want to ask you to share
    the science, because this is simple.
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    I don't have ego involved in this.
    (Laughter)
  • 20:12 - 20:14
    Give it away. Share it with people,
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    because the people who can use it the most
  • 20:17 - 20:20
    are the ones with no resources
    and no technology
  • 20:20 - 20:22
    and no status and no power.
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    Give it to them
    because they can do it in private.
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    They need their bodies,
    privacy and two minutes,
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    and it can significantly change
    the outcomes of their life.
  • 20:30 - 20:32
    Thank you.
  • 20:32 - 20:35
    (Applause)
Title:
Your body language may shape who you are
Speaker:
Amy Cuddy
Description:

Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy argues that "power posing" — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don't feel confident — can boost feelings of confidence, and might have an impact of on our chances for success. (Note: Some of the findings presented in this talk have been referenced in an ongoing debate among social scientists about robustness and reproducibility. Read Amy Cuddy's response under "Learn more" below.)

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Video Language:
English
Team:
closed TED
Project:
TEDTalks
Duration:
21:02

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